Fulfill Your Desires!

Maybe you have experienced one or more of the following problems:

• Loneliness and rejection when a romantic prospect doesn’t call or doesn’t ask for a second date
• Frustration and self doubt when a partner isn’t ready to commit to a relationship The need to push and
• pursue when your partner is emotionally distantAnger or shock over a recent affair The fear and uncertainty of being on the edge of a breakup or divorce...

There is a solution!!! But first you need to know the hidden cause of these relationship breakdowns...

What causes these problems?

This fear of not getting their needs met is often due to the fact that our culture programs us to have unrealistic expectations of what a relationship can or should provide.

Everyone thinks they understand love, but few really do. And, they think they know what they want from love (excitement, acceptance, security, companionship, affection, fun, sex, and maybe even financial benefit and kids). They have a long list of desires, wants, and needs, some of which are subconscious, some of which can be met by the other person, and some of which cannot.

But relationships are not simple, and they often are not what they are supposed to be. Once a person gets into a relationship they start to come up against a variety of issues such as uncertainty, fighting, jealousy, restrictions to freedom, control, unreliability, emotional distance, and more or less sex than they want. Add to this such things as poor money management, snoring, or messy habits, and sooner or later someone will want to get out.

Do you have to settle for less than you really want?

Well, it looks like you'll have to settle, right?

I want to answer this question with a solution that will blow your mind. It’s called “Partners in Love and Crime.” But first let me tell you a story:

Lori and Jim had known each other for two years and had dated most of that time. They were on the edge of a breakup because he couldn’t make a commitment, and she wanted to get married. She was frustrated by his commitment phobia and decided to talk with me. I said, “He doesn’t really want to break up, he wants to “break out.”

Lori asked me “What do you mean by that?”

I said, “He’s not commitment phobic, he simply doesn’t believe he can get all his needs met, so he wants to break out of prison.”

She argued with that, of course: “I’m not putting him in prison! We don’t even live together! I let him go out with the guys on Thursday nights, and My God it’s been two years and I haven’t pushed him for marriage until now!”

The Solution

Well, to make a long story short I told Lori that his cultural programming made him think he was in prison when maybe he wasn’t, and her cultural programming made her think she was doing the right things when maybe she wasn’t. I told her the solution to this was to see their relationship in a different way. That new way is “Partners in Love and Crime” instead of “boyfriend/girlfriend,” and that changing her attitude would make all the difference.

Again she asked “What do you mean?”

So I told her, as I will tell you. And within a short time they were living together and shortly thereafter got married. She now says “Changing my attitude was the key! ‘Partners in Love and Crime’ is the only way to go!”

The “Partners in Love and Crime” concept suggests that you don’t have to compromise your desires (and resent your partner) if you both become advocates for each other, helping each other meet your respective needs (whether or not it is done by or through you).

This powerful concept usually requires breaking out of the prison of cultural rules, rules which have been imposed on you since birth (and which you believe to be proper). The act of breaking out can create excitement and closeness in your relationship.

Breaking the Rules...

“Breaking the rules” will no doubt mean getting in touch with your partner’s dark side, the secret fears, fantasies and desires that few people know about. Certainly this has a lot to do with sex, though not totally.

Partners in Love and Crime definitely push the envelope to find sexual fulfillment, and help their partner do the same. But they break other rules as well, such as expectations regarding living arrangements or who should call who. In breaking the rules they get closer, are more committed to each other, and fully experience what love is all about.

The essence of “Partners in Love and Crime” is the letting go of unrealistic expectations about relationships and becoming your partner’s ally in getting their needs met.

The Benefits

Here are the benefits of the “Partners in Love and Crime” approach to relationships:

1. You can more easily find dates because you do not give off vibrations of “I want to put you in prison.” People will be more attracted to you because they do not perceive you as being needy.

2. You can more easily get from “dates” to “relationships” because you are comfortable navigating the “in-between world” that starts with acquaintance and builds slowly to friend to partial relationship to partner.

3. You can more effectively work through the problems of commitment phobia that arise either at the beginning of a relationship or a few years into a relationship because you want to help your partner meet his or her needs. There will be no need to break up, because there will be no need to “break out.”

4. You will be more likely to be able to resolve issues when you are on the edge of a breakup, because you are committed to getting the other person’s needs met, something everyone wants.

5. There is less likelihood that your partner will have an affair, because he or she is getting all their needs met.

6. You will more easily be able to keep relationships long term (or forever) because you have the skills to negotiate wants and needs, and can find “in-between” states that enable love to coexist with freedom. These states are always changing with time, and are unique to each couple. The partners figure out what works for them on an ongoing, ever-changing basis without socially induced fears or stereotypes. This is an exciting adventure that keeps both partners feeling alive and fulfilled.

7. Last but not least there will be better sex. By being open to your partner’s dark side, exploring fantasies, and offering more acceptance, your sex life will be invigorated, more exciting, and play its important role in holding your relationship together.

How to get started

This fear of not getting your needs met is often referred to as commitment phobia. Surprisingly it can affect all stages of relationships and destroy love...

To find out more about how the Partners in Love and Crime strategy can help you experience extraordinary love, simply submit your name and email below and you will instantly receive a copy of my special report “Why Most Relationships Fall Apart and What to Do About It.” This report explains how the fear of not getting all your needs met (otherwise known as commitment phobia) affects all stages of relationships:

Before the first date
After several years of dating
Even decades into a marriage

and how you can use the Partners in Love and Crime strategy to get past it.

This report is absolutely free, and contains a 5-step process to turn your love life around.

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